This is what “following your heart” gets you

Via GOP senator reverses gay-marriage stance after son comes out.

A prominent conservative senator said Thursday that he now supports gay marriage.

Sen. Rob Portman, R-Ohio, told reporters from the Columbus Dispatch and other Ohio newspapers that his change of heart on the hot-button issue came two years after his son, Will, told him and his wife that he is gay.

Well isn’t that special?  I can see how the pro-gay people would see people like Portman as unprincipled opportunists.

And it isn’t just the gay issue.  I see this a lot, including people who claim the name of Christ and not only don’t warn against pre-marital sex but actually let them sleep together under their roof!  I think they are afraid that if these were “really” sins (and of course they are) that it would reflect badly on them.  Or they feel guilty because, whether accurate or not, they think they were part of the reason their kids are sinning.  So they put themselves in the place of God and decide what isn’t a sin.  It’s just that easy!  What could go wrong when we try to usurp God’s authority?

“It allowed me to think of this issue from a new perspective, and that’s of a Dad who loves his son a lot and wants him to have the same opportunities that his brother and sister would have—to have a relationship like Jane and I have had for over 26 years,” Portman said.

No, if his son has gay relationships they can never be like the one he and his wife have, because they can never produce children and can never provide a mother and a father to a child.  Words mean things.

He also implies that if the government doesn’t promote his son’s relationships that they are preventing him from having those relationships.  That is false.

In an interview with CNN, Portman said his son, then a freshman at Yale University, told him “that he was gay, and that it was not a choice, and that it’s just part of who he is, and that he’d been that way for as long as he could remember.”

I’ve been a sinner as long as I can remember, too, but I don’t use that as an excuse to celebrate my sins.

. . . He also told CNN that he sought guidance from former Vice President Dick Cheney, whose daughter Mary is openly gay.

Portman said Cheney’s advice to him was simple: “Follow your heart.”

That is terrible, worldly advice.  As Jeremiah 17:9 notes, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?”  Think about that carefully.  Deceitful above all things.  That’s pretty deceitful.  Desperately sick.  That’s pretty sick.  Who can understand it?  No one.  So don’t follow it.

If you really love people, you’ll put their long-term best interests first.  You won’t lie to them to prop up your popularity.

12 thoughts on “This is what “following your heart” gets you

  1. This is so common, not just with homosexuality. So many people I know have set aside principles because their kids were involved sin. Whether it was drinking, divorce for things other than adultery (and then remarrying), cohabitation prior to marriage, etc. The list goes on. It is evidense of the world creeping into the Body.

    • Yes, I see that a lot, including people who claim the name of Christ and not only don’t tell their kids not to have sex before marriage but actually let them sleep together under their roof! I think they are afraid that if these were “really” sins (and of course they are) that it would reflect badly on them. So they put themselves in the place of God and decide what isn’t a sin. It’s just that easy!

  2. He also implies that if the government doesn’t promote his son’s relationships that they are preventing him from having those relationships. That is false.

    It’s also incredibly creepy. It goes beyond statist, communist ,etc., and almost into mind control – if the government doesn’t give you a big gold star for your “love”, it’s not real, or it’s not strong, or something.


    The only reason that government sticks its nose into marriage is because of children. Heterosexuals, through the normal course of business, produce the next generation, and society has an interest in seeing to it that those children become productive members of society, not criminals. (Channeling Ann Coulter here.) It does not care if the parents hate each other’s guts, want to hop in the sack twelve times a year or four times a day, or if they have a deep emotional bond. It just wants to be sure that those children are not going to be on the public dole or turn into serial criminals.

    To continue to channel the aforementioned blonde, a lot of the point of liberalism is to create exponential social decay. It’s easy to point out that single mothers are horrible when few women give birth outside of wedlock. When more people do it, fewer people feel comfortable critiquing that “choice”, and then more people do it because there’s no social stigma, and then…..

  3. I had a discussion with a fellow “Christian” just this morning about hell. He basically told me he doesn’t like the concept of eternal punishment so now he believes everyone is saved. (His name is not Rob Bell). I gave him some verses that clearly contradict that and his response was, “So?” I had no idea how to respond to that. In fact I’m kind of upset about it. I think he pretty much revealed himself to be a wolf in sheep clothing.

    Anyhow, the reason for this comment on this particular blog is he started with similar phrasing. He said it’s been on his heart that we are wrong about the whole eternal punishment thing.

  4. Let’s see what’s next on the agenda…..marriage of an adult and child, marriage with several people of the same or different sexes, marriage between a human and an animal. There are very devoted people with a true sense of compassion and need for these kinds of relationships. Who are we, as a nation, to judge their love just because it is different? This madness has no end except by the grace of God in limiting it for the sake of His people.

    • Children and animals are not able to consent to marriage, therefore that argument is null and void. Nice try though. I couldn’t care less if a man has 10 wives, and I can’t imagine how that would affect you in any way. (Unless of course you would be tempted yourself to live that lifestyle) Have you actually read the argument that is being presented to the Supreme Court against gay marriage? It is hilarious. You don’t have to condone it’s legalization, but it is a reality.

      • But you are assuming that marriage has to be consensual. Of course sane, moral people think it should be, but to be consistent you’d have to concede that if you are going to change the timeless definition of a man/woman marriage then you could change other factors as well.

      • What, if you please, in the argument, not against “gay” marriage but rather, in support of traditional marriage, do you find hilarious?

      • Rebel,
        Thanks for being gentle enough to call it a “nice try”. Why would you care about children, animals and others? Are they to be protected? If so why? By what sense of righteousness is the standard for your elevating them? Wouldn’t it be nice if ungodly relationships were viewed as the embarrassing actions of a sinful nature as opposed to a badge of honor? A society based on insane whims of pleasure will be a hellish place to live. We should all care. I haven’t read the Supreme Court argument. There is only one Judge we need be concerned with in matters like this. His rulings are final. If you are a brother in Christ then you are confused and need to repent. If you are not then….I am sad for you.

  5. Portman also claimed to be moved by his Methodist faith, saying,

    “Ultimately, for me, it came down to the Bible’s overarching themes of love and compassion and my belief that we are all children of God…”

    …yet he forgets an incredibly relevant teaching:

    “Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” (Matt. 10:37).

    Portman’s is a rather worldly position to take regarding his son and his new position on marriage. It was distinctly worldly of Dick Cheney as well. Alan Keyes, however, disowned his daughter who is lesbian. (Some say simply because of it, but she openly insisted she intends to be an activist—that’s a different thing)

    All of us have done things our parents did not like. Some of us (never me, dammit) got passes for it. The same goes for those of us with children. Few children are perfect. How we respond to their “crimes” matters and changing our beliefs in order to avoid the difficult aspects of opposing improper behaviors or beliefs of our children is important for our own souls, as much as for theirs.

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